Were you “Groomed?”: Understanding the Role of Grooming Behavior in Sexual Abuse
The Red Flags of Grooming Behavior - Darkness to Light
At least not among my friends, colleagues, and family. Grooming is a process by which offenders gradually draw victims into a sexual relationship and maintain that relationship in secrecy. One of the scariest things about grooming is that it is highly successful, allowing offenders to slowly overcome natural boundaries long before actual sexual abuse occurs. Grooming begins with making the victim feel special, set apart, loved, and valued. This is not an exhaustive list of feelings someone who is being groomed will experience, but it gives you an idea of the kinds of feelings the offender is trying to create in the victim. Grooming continues, progressing through stages like gaining trust of the victim, family, and community , relationship building, and isolating. The end goal?
If you are an adult who was abused as a child it is possible that you may have never spoken to anyone about this. Many adults keep this a secret well into their adult life and many find that the effect upon them has had devastating consequences not only throughout their childhood but also in their adult life. You may find that you have enormous difficulty in maintaining loving and trusting relationships, you may have low sense of worth and low self esteem, you may suffer from sexual difficulties and depression. In order to try and block out the abuse and to cope you may be drinking heavily, taking drugs, self harming, suffering from eating disorders and may feel suicidal. It is important to share the way you are feeling with someone you can trust, someone who will be there for you to listen and give you support.
Judy Aug 7, Abuse. The purpose of SRA is to indoctrinate the victim into satanic beliefs and practices. Ritual abuse is repeated over an extended period and may involve rape. Because of the coercive nature of the group, people feel as if they are hostages and they are threatened. As a result, they do not want to break the silence.